I cannot even begin to count the number of times I have been asked for advice on how to make a guy go wild with the perfect BJ. Something that I hear pretty often from straight guys and gay guys alike is that they often have someone tell them how great they are at giving head only to be very disappointed when that person provides them with a subpar oral performance. Hopefully, this post will provide you with some tips that you might not have previously considered. Remember that you have to take the individual cock into consideration because they are NOT all created equal.
I think we can all agree that teeth are your enemy when you have a fleshrod jammed halfway down your fucking throat. Unfortunately, there are no magic tricks to this part. As I’m sure your mother always told you, “practice makes perfect”. So, make your mother proud and practice keeping those fucking shards of bone out of the way when you’re sucking his cum gun. The simplest, most effective way to accomplish this is to wrap your lips around your teeth…much like an 80-year-old woman looks when she removes her dentures. Master this and you will have won half the battle.
One of the most common things I hear from people is that they can only get it down an inch or two and then they hit their gag reflex and are unable to go any further. My initial response to this is “quit being such a pussy and learn to take a dick bitch!” But, being a BJ connoisseur I consider it my duty to fix this problem. There are a few things you can do to improve this: the easiest thing to remember is that positioning is key. Have him lie down and then lay the opposite direction beside or over him (in a 69 fashion). With his dick facing up towards his belly and you facing the opposite direction, extend your throat forward so that your neck is extended (as if you were tilting your head backwards). This motion opens up the back of your throat and reduces gag reflex sensitivity. For many, this is a good way to train your throat and to gain better control of the muscles that control your gag reflexes. It’s also easier to learn this way than to become bulimic for three years (which also just so happens to train that reflex very well). Most guys enjoy the sensation of someone “deepthroating”. However, there are a small percentage of guys that actually prefers that they don’t hit the back of your throat. So, make sure that you know your guy’s preference before you go to town on that schlong. Once you master the skill you should be able to go as deep as you want with minimal if any discomfort for yourself. And, just for the record, some discomfort is normal…be a trooper…no one likes a whiney cock sucker.
Now on to the topic of what to do with your hands while servicing that big gorgeous meat stick; you have them - use them. Unless, of course, you are a paraplegic or an amputee in which case I’m sure you aren’t getting any anyway. As always, methods of stimulation need to be adapted for each individual – so get feedback from whoever’s flagpole your choking on. Here are a few suggestions. Don’t be afraid to play with his marbles – but, in the words of Bon Qui Qui, “Don’t get crazy!” For most guys, a nice gentle massaging of his nuts will increase stimulation and sensitivity in a big way. Be gentle but don’t be afraid to use them to increase the pleasure. Some guys enjoy nipple play, so if that is your guy…tweaking his tits while your bobbing your head up and down his shaft will make him go wild. The sexual pleasure spot for males is located at the prostate. Often called the P-spot this is the male version of the G-spot. Any pressure applied to the prostate will almost undoubtedly increase sensitivity and pleasure. To do this, you can deeply massage his perineum, the area between his ass and the base of his shaft (also called taint). In order to apply enough pressure to the prostate using this method, you have to press pretty hard. So keep a close eye on your partner’s reactions as you do this. One of the absolute best ways to increase sensation is to finger him while you blow him. Obviously, this is something that you would want to clear with him before you go shoving things up his ass…and for obvious reasons, he’ll probably want to be properly groomed before allowing this. As long as he is willing to experiment, this can be a very rewarding experience for him and you. Take this process very slow at first – you would be surprised by the power that you hold in your little finger.
The last thing I would like to cover in this post is spitters vs. swallowers. It is my personal opinion that spitters are quitters and that anyone that isn’t willing to swallow a decent load doesn’t deserve the cock in the first place. However, for those people that just can’t get past that idea, don’t make your partner feel guilty for cumming for fuck sake. Don’t talk about how much you hate cum and start complaining about it making you sick. If you don’t like to eat cum, then just talk to your guy before hand or sometime prior to him getting off and let him know that you want him to tell you when he is about to get off. Right before he cums, you can continue jacking him off without using your mouth until he gets off. You don’t have to swallow it – but don’t be afraid of it.
Well, that’s it. I hope that you have read something here that gives you at least a little insight into giving a proper BJ. This is an art form that takes dedication and practice. Just keep in mind that you are doing this for him, not you. Unless of course you are like me and you enjoy sucking cock more that having someone suck yours. But, not everyone can be as wonderful as me ;)
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